Are you a leader who chooses their words and actions based on how you want others to react?
Or do you choose based on what you really think?
The Coronavirus pandemic and 2020 national election has brought the political pundits to the forefront like never before.
Over the years, I’ve become fascinated with the communication of leaders, in content, style, demeanor and tone. As we watch politicians and other leaders navigate the current environment, the following quote from Patrick Lencioni has come roaring to the front of my mind:
Politics is when people choose their words and actions based on how they want others to react rather than based on what they really think.
One step worse is when leaders choose their words and actions based on what they think others want to hear. Yikes.
The following are (3) questions to help grow as a leader in communication from a position of truth:
What do I believe ______________ to communicate in this situation:
1) …is most true…?” Brene Brown’s “clear is kind” is incredibly powerful.
2) …would be most helpful to the person and organization…?”
3) …is the kindest way…?”
- Truth that isn’t helpful or kind leads to discouragement and fear.
- Helpful without being kind or speaking truth leads to confusion and insecurity.
- Kindness without truth leads to inauthenticity and limits development.
It’s when we dig into and meld together all three that we honor others, lay the groundwork for development and build trust with those around us.
Cheers to strong communication and building healthier organizations.