A couple of weeks ago, I was traveling and stopped off to grab some Chick-fil-A before hopping on a one-on-one with one of our leaders.
As I surgically dowsed one waffle fry at a time, we went from topic to topic when all of a sudden, she shared what might have been a passing update to her but jumped out as the leadership highlight of the week.
So here’s how it went – after giving a compensation increase and providing some feedback for the season ahead, she closed out their time with the following statement:
“This is all of the feedback I have for you at this time.”
WOW!! I was floored. Talk about a powerful way to deepen security in this team member and relationship. The truth is, she said so much more than, “this is all of the feedback I have for you at this time.”
She was communicating, “I’m holding nothing back,” “you can handle the truth,” and “I care enough and believe in you enough to be fully transparent as it relates to your role and performance.” She affirmed that this isn’t simply the 75% that you can bear to hear or I have the guts to say. And, she was confirming that there wasn’t another 25% (as Paul Harvey would put it, “the rest of the story”) that you need to be ready for whenever the time feels right.
While they say a good blog has to be a little longer than this one, sometimes the message is clear, and the point is simple.
What would it look like to move to a place where you could say, “this is all of the feedback I have for you at this time,” at the end of a meeting or performance assessment?
Cheers to building courage and confidence through providing clear, honest, and kind feedback!